Unsure if I've ever shared my personal philosophy here, but it goes: "People are going to look, so give them something to fucking look at!"
I developed it when I was younger and visibly goth and queer, possibly even more so than now. People stared but I was always without a doubt the most interesting looking person on that bit of street, so I couldn't fault them for it! And anybody who had issues with it could see just how little I cared to hide.
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Sini Tuulia
in reply to Sini Tuulia • • •If people are going to stare, just wear your favourite weird fabulous thing, the cute eyeshadow, the nice shoes that are comfy. Hold your head up high and walk on like you own the world. You're not the boring person without taste looking on and silently judging, you're the one who is feeling good about themselves and being who you want to be.
They're going to look anyway, make them remember that they looked! 😄
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in reply to Sini Tuulia • • •absolutely. This is why I wear 80s-cut double-breasted jackets, shirts with french cuffs, eye-catching ties, and pocket squares.
People will look at me because of the cane, might as well see some good fashion.
Also, stare back.
Sini Tuulia
in reply to Mx Amber Alex (she/it) 😷 • • •@amberage There's a local man here who uses a cane and wears an eye-patch. And yet he's not known for that, those are just details about the appearance of the Man Who Wears Three Piece Suits In Any Weather And Always Looks Fantastic! I wish him all the best, he has beautiful vintage looking coats as well.
People these days will first spot my face mask, or at least do a double take. Then their eyes linger and they see everything else!
Mx Amber Alex (she/it) 😷
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in reply to Sini Tuulia • • •My favourite winter coat is vintage, wool, bright red and full length, and everyone else is walking around in modern black polyester. 😅
Sini Tuulia
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in reply to Gulleko • • •@Gulleko My knees hate the pressure from trousers these days, so unless I have the knees literally cut away from jeans I can't wear them. 😅 They're also an absolute bitch to properly pattern and make, so I never got around to it just to slash them up, though they were a very usable garment back when I could wear them. Always in black, of course.
I have home skirts and outside skirts, because who wants to sweep the floors with everything the hem touched when out on walkies? Easier to change out of them, and wear them when going outside again.
Gulleko
in reply to Sini Tuulia • • •I don't wear skirts long enough to drag on the floor no matter if it's inside or outside, because they would be so dirty from cat hair and their kitty litter... My ideal length is being able to step over a sleeping cat without having to lift my skirt. 😸
Sini Tuulia
in reply to Gulleko • • •I try to make mine so they just touch the tops of my shoes, but inevitably they'll swish over something, or drag on stairs. This didn't bother me before The Rona, but here we are.
The top skirt gathers less cat hair, and the petticoat hem is mostly hidden, so it doesn't matter if it has cat hair! But also I vacuum like three times a week these days, so. 😄
Gulleko
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in reply to Gulleko • • •@Gulleko I also probably have at least ADHD, but I've solved the issue by letting the vacuum cleaner live in the living room! Whenever I feel like there's too much fabric dust, bits of thread, cat hair, adventurous bits of kitty litter or anything, I can just grab the vacuum cleaner without any further steps to take and it doesn't take that long because I do it that often.
(Let's not talk about the state of my dishes, though...)
Becky
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Consider me jealous! That level of confidence? Hella rare
Sini Tuulia
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Unknown parent • • •I never knew if they meant it to mock me, or if we all thought it was equally in good fun, but in the end it was one of my favourite achievements in life to have a literal theme song everywhere I went! If they ever thought I'd take it as anything but a compliment, they sure didn't need to make it so rad!
Slothdude
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Unknown parent • • •@0xdariaj I don't feel like messing with taking it off and putting it back on, so I just always have one on when I'm somewhere. The easiest place to properly put it on is at home and sitting down! Usually my excursions are not that long anyway (I get tired) so it's not an issue to wear the same mask.
It's just nice to dress nice, too! It's not exactly armour, but it's better for morale to face small difficulties if you also look great. 😆