I do not do anything on my phone that would give them cause to snoop, and if they don't have a legit reason to ask for it, they don't need it.

That said, I've been in enough accidents or situations where the possibility that they might at some point need it exists, and in that case I will give it up.

My son and his girlfriend treat their phones like each others, to the point where if I get a text from one phone number it could be from either of them.

My partner and I don't really want the responsibility and have no interest or care about snooping. She has an envelope with all the relevant secrets of my digital empire should she need to get into something for some reason.

Yes, we sometimes use our phones interchangeably. For example grabbing whatever phone is closest to take a cute pet pic and share it, changing music while driving or using navigation features, etc. we also have passwords to each others computers for much the same reason

Before we quit Pokémon a common use case was “there’s a rare Pokémon here, I will catch it on my and my partner’s phone” 🤣

My wife has full access to my phone and password manager should the need arise. She proved herself trustworthy long ago, and I know she'll respect my privacy to a level that matches my trust.

That said, there's definitely been the odd "Wow, I thought/wish I'd closed that browser tab" moment. 😅

If I were married maybe, in the interest of making logistical things easier if I died or got into a bad accident or something.

Not for "monitoring" though, I think it's unhealthy if there aren't still some private spaces in a relationship. If someone doesn't know me well enough to trust me in that way or obsessively needs access to every corner of my life, we shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

Generally no, but every now and then something happens where I need to access his phone, eg we're traveling and I need to log into his phone while he's driving, then I know it until he changes it (or I forget) and vice versa.

I just don't care either way.

We're married 15 years. For emergencies, we each have the ability to access the other's password manager. (or we should--I should make sure we've got the most recent editions of each other's manager password.)

@lorimolson
Yes but I don't think he remembers it. I know his because work stuff (I do the bookkeeping) often goes to his phone and I sometimes need a passcode for a bank website or something when he's asleep 😑

As a family we often know pins but still respect privacy.

We were married at least a decade before phones became so ubiquitous, though. If I were dating there's no way I'd give someone access to my phone.