Fellow burnt out and overwhelmed people:
What do you do in your spare time that isn't just some form of power down and shut off, to make sure you are actually doing fulfilling things in life as the days go by? How do you make yourself do that, why, and what is it?
Willow (she/her)
in reply to dyani 🫠• • •I mean at first I just vegged out for a long time. Let my nervous system recover a bit.
Moved into doing cozy games and hobbies with no limit or schedule on the time. Just played as much as I wanted to.
Willow (she/her)
in reply to Willow (she/her) • • •Zumbador
in reply to Willow (she/her) • • •lizzzzard
in reply to Zumbador • • •For me, too, it's basically the same as @Zumbador said.
Regular work days overwhelm me so much that I need more than just a few hours of nothing until I can initiate anything I'd count as "fulfilling".
@MsHearthWitch @dyani
Willow (she/her)
in reply to lizzzzard • • •@lizzard @Zumbador Absolutely, that is why I mentioned that at first I just vegged. That period is gonna be different for everyone and actually ime it's been more cyclical.
Veg period
Slow hobbies
Veg again
Slow hobbies
Repeat.
And the first hobbies I did were decidedly NOT productive. Things where there wasn't a goal at the end. Just doing something with my hands as some energy began to come back to me.
lizzzzard
in reply to Willow (she/her) • • •Napalousa
in reply to Zumbador • • •Mind Shambles
in reply to dyani 🫠• • •I do voluntary work from anywhere I have a laptop (often my work lunch breaks)
Its a quick way to feel like doing amazing things in a small way, for a daily 'happy' point.
Basically I help map places that are not mapped online to help with disaster recovery/preparedness from natural disasters and conflict.
The link explains better than me
missingmaps.org/
Missing Maps
missingmaps.orgAutumn
in reply to dyani 🫠• • •Last year, I felt pretty overwhelmed and unsatisfied with university in general and started using blogging not only as a creative outlet, but also as a means of getting me to do stuff.
I set myself the goal of writing 4000 words a month, which got my brain to focus on making actual progress on projects so I could write a post about them.
Be that cooking, arts and craft, tech, nature or creative writing (i.e. a short story).
It also allowed me to create a collection of posts I can refer back to when I revisit a specific project or technique.
I'm currently doing a fulltime internship (which, in regards to an earlier post of yours, took me about 18 applications spread over a year to get) and I feel more exhausted and less energetic to do stuff after work now.
But I still decided to go for 1000words / 1 blog post a month, just so I keep creating and distract myself in a positive way.
Even if it is just for myself.
clew
in reply to Autumn • • •Ohhhh technique posts, brilliant.
I wrote connected-up reviews of everything I read for a while. I remember that reading better than anything I didn’t write about.
@comcloudway @dyani
Napalousa
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in reply to dyani 🫠• • •a bit of colouring books. I like looking at bright colours and I can just choose. Very little brain action or mental energy required.
How do I make myself do it? I don't, which is why I don't do it often.
Helen
in reply to dyani 🫠• • •I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but for my interpretation of the question I try to keep up streaks for things just for me.
So I'll come up with something that I want to do, or think about a value I hold, or something that's missing in my life. Then I try to do something for it repeatedly.
For example, I go running every 3 days. And I hate running. It's awful. But it regulates my heart in the long term. I've done a 30 min run but I've also done a 5 min run. The thing that ticks off the habit is to "do a run" and then not judge myself if it's only a short one. The app I use even has a 1 min run.
Similarly, having given up Duolingo, I still wanted to learn a language. Instead of the owl forcing me into an Italian lesson every day, I just have to "study a language" and that could be spending some time on a language app, or reading a book in another language or just listening to a single song. In whatever language I'm interested in that day.
I guess what this all boils down to is that I've found a way to do something that's just for me and isn't related to work or other people. I'm not striving for a particular goal. I learned how to give myself enough flexibility so that I was likely to achieve the goal even on rough days. Then when I look back on the app I can see I did something for myself 12 times in one month, for example. By making it into a "streak" I want to keep, it propels me to do it, even if it's only one tiny thing.
Elena ``of Valhalla''
in reply to dyani 🫠• •@dyani 🫠handsewing
but also knitting, spinning (drop spindle, not wheel) and lucet cord, in order of decreasing wakefulness needed (the latter is basically a fidget toy, except for the fact that there is some useful¹ cord growing out of it)
¹ usefulness may depend on your style of dressing :D
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dyani ðŸ«
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Marcos Dione
in reply to dyani 🫠• • •the things at home, I either watch TV[1] or listen to music while doing it.
[1] series or youtubers I follow.
Marcos Dione
in reply to Marcos Dione • • •Oh, I missed the question entirely.
I force myself to go hiking or biking. Most of the time I lose. I don't have (stable) groups to do it with, and alone is not so funny anymore. I have almost no social net here :(
dyani ðŸ«
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